On Tuesday Josh took the day off work so we could attend Grandma Connie's funeral as a family. We went to the viewing, the funeral service, the grave side, and the luncheon. They were all done so beautifully and it was such a good experience for us. Tyler and Nathan were amazingly well behaved for the 4 1/2 hours of having to be reverent. I was very impressed with them. Tyler kept asking questions about Grandma Connie, death, Heaven, ect. He loves to have answers and I could tell especially this time, he had concerns for Grandma and wanted to make sure everything was okay for her. We explained that bodies wear out and when it's time, the spirit separates from the body and the spirit goes to live with our Heavenly Father and other loved ones that have passed on too. We explained that she is no longer sick in Heaven and is very happy to be back with her husband and many other people that love her. He really understood and was satisfied, but always added "I really love Grandma Connie, She is such a good girl."
That night after Tyler had been tucked into bed, we heard sobs coming from his room. I just thought he was upset at us for putting him to bed when he wasn't ready, so I asked Josh to go check on him. Josh was in there a little while talking to him and he came out to say Tyler was crying because he missed Grandma Connie. :( I left what I was doing to go talk to him. He had recovered mostly, but when I gave him a hug and asked if he was okay he nodded but his voice cracked when he said "I just really miss Grandma Connie...I love her so much." He started crying a little bit more as he asked when she was coming back. Poor kid, he is so tender hearted :(. I explained the resurrection to him and said it would not be for a very long time, but one day he would get to see her again. I then told him that if he said a prayer to Heavenly Father and asked him to Give his Grandma Connie a big hug for him and tell her that he misses her and loves her that Heavenly Father would do it. I told him that She would love to hear how much he loves her, but she would also want him to be happy and not sad for her, because she is happy. He said he would have his own prayer and I reminded him to ask for comfort that he can feel happy. I never heard anything else that night and in the morning he had a big smile on his face. I asked how he slept and if he had a prayer. He said he slept good and yes he had a prayer and it made him feel good. That whole day he was so sweet and patient with people. I was amazed at how peaceful and cooperative he was. Sometimes with his hyper behavior and outright defiance on a normal basis, I forget how tender hearted he is. It just reminded me that if Josh and I try harder to have the spirit in our home and discuss the gospel principles often with him, it will be extremely beneficial in our relationship as a family and will keep it more peaceful in our home.
That night after Tyler had been tucked into bed, we heard sobs coming from his room. I just thought he was upset at us for putting him to bed when he wasn't ready, so I asked Josh to go check on him. Josh was in there a little while talking to him and he came out to say Tyler was crying because he missed Grandma Connie. :( I left what I was doing to go talk to him. He had recovered mostly, but when I gave him a hug and asked if he was okay he nodded but his voice cracked when he said "I just really miss Grandma Connie...I love her so much." He started crying a little bit more as he asked when she was coming back. Poor kid, he is so tender hearted :(. I explained the resurrection to him and said it would not be for a very long time, but one day he would get to see her again. I then told him that if he said a prayer to Heavenly Father and asked him to Give his Grandma Connie a big hug for him and tell her that he misses her and loves her that Heavenly Father would do it. I told him that She would love to hear how much he loves her, but she would also want him to be happy and not sad for her, because she is happy. He said he would have his own prayer and I reminded him to ask for comfort that he can feel happy. I never heard anything else that night and in the morning he had a big smile on his face. I asked how he slept and if he had a prayer. He said he slept good and yes he had a prayer and it made him feel good. That whole day he was so sweet and patient with people. I was amazed at how peaceful and cooperative he was. Sometimes with his hyper behavior and outright defiance on a normal basis, I forget how tender hearted he is. It just reminded me that if Josh and I try harder to have the spirit in our home and discuss the gospel principles often with him, it will be extremely beneficial in our relationship as a family and will keep it more peaceful in our home.
4 comments:
Aw, Tyler is such a sweetheart!
I think he might be related to his uncle! :)
That's neat that Tyler is starting to ask those questions. He's a smart kid.
Yeah, that got me crying. Tyler is soooo sweet.
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